“My mother started seeing a new man just eight months after my dad died,” Kate told me.
“Doesn’t it take a full year to work through grief?
Your parent’s money is your parent’s money, and an inheritance is a gift, not an entitlement.
Plunging back into the dating pool after the death of a spouse can be tough for anyone.
I asked why and he said because they don’t want someone with kids.
He has told me that he’s really struggling with this because he made a promise to them that if they didn’t think it was right, then he wouldn’t do it.
Help make it easier for your parent by giving them support and understanding, not grief.
As far as I know, they haven’t given him a reason as to why.They may want your approval, but they certainly don’t need it.Giving a parent a guilt trip about dating again isn’t going to help either of you.“I want my mom to be happy, but how do I know that her suitors don’t have ulterior motives?I’m concerned that she’ll jump into another marriage and her second husband will take advantage of her financially.” Others are even more blunt. “My brother and I had been there for my father our whole lives. I didn’t want her to replace us in his will.” These are all valid concerns, but should you voice them to your surviving parent? Your mother or father likely knows that this can be a thorny issue and may initiate a conversation about it.In fact, many people feel confused, disappointed, and even angry when Mom or Dad steps back into the dating scene.Like it or not, these adult children find themselves thrown back into unhealthy childhood dynamics: They may feel hurt and even abandoned by their parent’s actions but are powerless to do anything about them.Would you want others to simply label you a “widow” or “widower”?Would you want to be alone for the rest of your life?Whether your parent experiences heartbreak again can’t be avoided. If you think they are truly being taken advantage of, speak up - gently.When it comes to their will, however, it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself.