If this were just confined to personal lives it would be one thing.
But what happens at these sex parties—and in open relationships—unfortunately, doesn’t stay there.
“At normal tech parties, there are hardly any women.
At these kinds of party, there are tons of them.”I believe there is a critical story to tell about how the women who participate in these events are often marginalized, even if they attend of their own volition.
The freewheeling sex lives pursued by men in tech—from the elite down to the rank and file—have consequences for how business gets done in Silicon Valley.
From reports of those who have attended these parties, guests and hosts include powerful first-round investors, well-known entrepreneurs, and top executives.
But if each of the dozen women doesn’t care, is there any crime committed?
You could say it’s disgusting but not illegal—it just perpetuates a culture that keeps women down.”To be clear, there is a wide range of parties for experimental sexual behavior.
“You know when it’s that kind of party,” one male tech investor told me.
Some, devoted entirely to sex, may be drug- and alcohol-free (to encourage safety and performance) and demand a balanced gender ratio.
Others are very heavy on drugs and women and usually end in group “cuddle puddles,” a gateway to ever-so-slightly more discreet sexual encounters.
Sometimes the venue is an epic mansion in San Francisco’s Pacific Heights; sometimes it’s a lavish home in the foothills of Atherton or Hillsborough.
On special occasions, the guests will travel north to someone’s château in Napa Valley or to a private beachfront property in Malibu or to a boat off the coast of Ibiza, and the bacchanal will last an entire weekend.