Even though we’re following Jesus, and reading the same Bible, and aiming for the covenant of marriage, our dating advice can be surprisingly wide and diverse.
One Lord, one faith, one baptism — and a billion different dating tips.
He captures our into his goal and plan for our life: to make disciples who love him with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Will we trust him, even when we want something else for ourselves?
If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.
Fight the impulse to date in a corner by yourselves, and instead draw one another into those important relationships.My wife Ashley and I love working with married couples and creating resources to help people deepen their faith and strengthen their marriages.We’re often asked to recommend a marriage “devotional” for a husband and wife to go through together.The advice we choose might be from a book by a doctor, or a random conversation with someone at church, or a blog post by a teenager, or just something we found on Pinterest.For many of us, if we’re honest, it really doesn’t matter who’s offering the advice as long as it confirms what we thought or wanted in the first place.A friend of mine recently got married and said even though her relationship was not struggling, her and her FI (at the time) purchased The Love Dare for their devotional. I could go on, and if you’re a part of almost any kind of Christian community, you probably can too.The key will be to lean on other Christians who know you best, love you most, and have a proven record of telling you when you are making a mistake or wandering away from God’s will for you.Today more than ever before, we’re faced with a never-ending buffet of opinions and advice that has something to say about everything and yet lets us choose the answer we want.You could probably read through all thirty-one of these in ten minutes or less and if you want to read them all at once and then go back and spend time reflecting on one per day, that’s fine.However you choose to do it, I hope these words bring you to a more intimate connection with your spouse and with God.