Parents can declare: no matter how much attraction and enjoyment there is, if how young people treat each other lacks respect for one or both of them, then what they have is not a good relationship. As I describe in my book about adolescence, "The Connected Father," parents can suggest four basic treatment questions to which their son or daughter needs to ask and answer "yes" to affirm that the significant dating relationship is good, or at least good enough.For sure, parents need to tell their son or daughter that any kind of violence (action with intent to harm), be it verbal, emotional, physical or sexual, is not okay. First: "Do I like how I treat myself in the relationship?More than anything, communication is essential to building any healthy relationship.The first step is making sure both partners are on the same page about the relationship, and understand each other’s expectations.Disagreements are a natural part of any relationship, but compromising and resolving conflicts in a fair and rational way will help you both listen to each other and agree on something that satisfies to share everything, including who they were hanging out with or where they’ve been.Both partners should feel free to share this information or not.It’s healthy to spend time apart and will benefit the relationship!Boundaries are not designed to make a partner feel “trapped” in a relationship.
These kinds of behaviors are considered unhealthy, because they are about one partner exerting power and control over another to get what they want.
Respect is how the relationship is conducted in a sensitive manner.
Typically it is based on keeping treatment of each other within limits that feel comfortable and safe for them both.
Moreover, both partners should allow for time and space away from each other.
When two partners are constantly together, it doesn’t allow any room for the relationship to breathe.