My reality is that I have a disability and I’m single. Most of my high school and college friends have married, started families, engaged or actively dating. Unfortunately, dating has always been a non-exist subject with many family members, friends and my doctors. Of course I had crushes, and had that Brad Pitt poster hanging over my bed senior year of high school, but actually dating didn’t seem realistic. I was seen first as having a disability and this person named Lucia was just along for the ride.Just like a messy divorce-in-progress or the fact that there are three kids under the age of 10 waiting at home, Carlson feels that disability is an important fact that potential partners should know from the beginning.Unlike Woodward, who feels the Internet can bring out more negative in people than positive, Carlson thinks online dating is actually a better, less scary way for guys to approach her.The anonymity of the Internet, however, gives the curious a new kind of boldness.“It’s really kind of a hit and a lot of misses when it comes to online dating,” Woodward says.
There was a time when I thought I found “the one.” We met in 2006, became friends and six months later were dating exclusively.
Tiffiny Carlson calls this “dropping the D-bomb.” Carlson, a writer who uses a wheelchair due to spinal cord injury, has been online dating since 1998.
“I always disclose my disability right away in my profile and photos,” she says via email.
Wheelchair users may only post photos that show their bodies from the waist up, or people with visual impairments may not mention their guide dogs and white canes in bios.
Only when they schedule an in-person date with someone do they mention their disability.