My ex also started dating before me, and that opened the door for me, too.
I think it’s important to honor any feelings you’re having and process those first, so they don’t interfere with your next relationships.
To illustrate how much the timeframe can vary, we talked to nine women about how long it took them to take that scary leap of faith.’ It’s not just about what you want, but what you can give to a relationship.” —“I was alone for a year before the divorce was final, and during that time, the thought of dating was overwhelming.But recently I went on a tour of beautiful homes with friends, and we saw this incredible bathroom with a claw foot tub, fireplace and view of the lake out the window, and it was so romantic.It’s important to listen to your gut with dating, and not mask your feelings by diving into dating before you’re ready.” — “I started dating before my divorce was even final. A lot of that was age—I was in my mid-twenties and I wanted to go out and do what my girlfriends were doing and date like them.My ex and I were separated, and I wanted to put the whole thing behind me. C., and guys I dated were perplexed that I could be so young and already have been married and divorced. He said ‘I can’t handle that,’ and then just up and left."I met someone pretty soon after my divorce was final and that turned into a long-term relationship.I think it’s important to take a step back after a divorce, whether it was your idea or not, to evaluate what happened and take responsibility for your role...It ended up being a total disaster—the guy was criticizing how I ate pizza—so I had to cut that nightmare short and have a friend come pick me up.Another date I found out the guy was on probation, so it hasn’t been great yet. It gave me more time to get to a better place mentally and emotionally and sort through and address the feelings I was having.My kids were in elementary school when we separated, and I wanted to wait until they were grown until I really started to focus on myself.My biggest fear was having a different boyfriend every Christmas.