When you’re older and ready to start dating, I hope that you will do the same. ” Adults generally take a cynical view of teenage romance, as if it were a chemical imbalance in need of correction. “You know what they’re like when their hormones start raging.” A boy and a girl float down the street holding hands, dizzy in love, and all parents see is testosterone and estrogen out on a date.
Just look at the words used to describe affection between two young people: “infatuation,” “crush,” “puppy love.” If it feels like love to the two puppies, isn’t it love?
Those that endure until graduation day rarely survive the post-high-school years.
If one or both young people leave home, the physical distance has a way of opening an emotional distance between them, and eventually the relationship coasts to a halt.
Acknowledge your teen’s pain but assure her that she will be happy again.
“I understand how upset you are, and I know you may feel like your sadness is never going to go away.
The first time they experience romantic rejection, the sadness can seem bottomless.
If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.
High-school romances tend to have limited life spans.
They march off en masse to the mall or to the movies, or join a gang tossing a Frisbee on the beach.
Don’t confuse group dating with double-dating or triple-dating.