I dont want to be with a married man- again to each its own choice, to each its own beliefs and well,your acceptance to be with that separated person.I could understand getting together for rituals (holidays) that exist with in that family…I would be pretty flexible with that.
It wasn't about cheating or abuse, but there are other ways to feel like you are dying a slow death! I think OP you were asking why this man just does not get a divorce. Or just separated at a young age from their family ? I have found that most men who are separated are not of the same mind-set or emotional level with regards to having a "relationship" as I am.Deciding not to date separated people because someone cheated on you that was separated is silly IMO.If they are cheaters they are cheaters if not with their ex than it would have been with someone else.We still care about each other very much, he's family to me. I bet you he is still married to her or should I say separated. They have not yet gone through the gamut of emotions and experiences that you have to endure when you face both separation and divorce.And yes, we get along well, but for short periods of time only, kinda like a brother who you love, but don't always like. They have a "candy store" mentality and basically want to have fun (sex) and party after being "serious" and married for so long.Children need to learn boundaries in spite of themselves and they learn them best from their more powerful adversaries - parents.I also look at children learning coping skills you display from hanging on to the past and doing what you think is right.This sentence above really hit a nerve because I have heard this before.Just have fun and enjoy-which really I have found a way of saying lets just enjoy sex and not expect anything else because that is not the place I am at-candy store mentality, til something better pops up.I find that when I am dating a man that still does things with his family, it is very hard on me, because usually I was not invited.So usually we ended up going our separate ways due to this.