Every year, once we get past Thanksgiving and Black-Eye Friday and the Christmas Shopping Season It’s a trickier question than you’d think.
Gift giving, whether at Christmas, Valentine’s Day or a birthday, can be fraught with insecurity and peril, especially when you’re at the beginning of a new relationship – or worse, are still in the “are we/aren’t we” stage of dating.
I genuinely loved certain family traditions like the annual gathering of as many friends as possible to take over a local Tex-Mex restaurant for Christmas Eve lunch – before we all got older and had responsibilities that made it impossible to keep it going.You should have a pretty solid idea of what your sweetie is into and is appropriate.I point out that at this stage, practical gifts are more acceptable, especially if you’re living together.After all, no matter how much we try to tell ourselves that a gift is just a gift, what you give to your sweetie carries an intrinsic message about how you feel about them and your relationship. Ask around; buying expensive or outrageous gifts when you’re still early in the relationship is going to be a red flag to the majority of people. There are plenty of men – myself included – who’ve made the mistake of overcommitting on a gift too early in the relationship. Sometimes we legitimately trying to bowl them over and effectively buy their affections.It’s an extension of the Grand Romantic Gesture that looks great in movies but actually freaks people out in real life. Either way: at best it’s going to send very awkward messages. well, it can be the incident that causes your honey to start rethinking how they feel about you.Talking About It and Making a Plan Getting a Gift or Card Picking an Event Community Q&A Valentine’s Day for new couples may feel as awkward as a 10-ton gorilla doing ballet, given that your feelings for one another are very new and you're not sure where your relationship is headed.Whether you’ve been on only one date or have been seeing each other for a few weeks, the dreaded red-hearted holiday can make even the most confident dater feel insecure about how to approach the holiday.And to be perfectly honest, if I the holiday induces in my friends and family…and it doubles the amount of anxiety-induced emails I get.One of my best friends once got a ring for Christmas from her boyfriend. If you want to avoid sending the wrong message with your gift and signaling that you might have gotten overly attached too quickly, you need to navigate the Price/Relationship axis.You have to take into account how long you’ve been dating and – critically – what Fortunately, it’s fairly simple.