“If you really want it, you need to expand your parameters in terms of a lot of things—especially geographic.” Making a match between two Jews is considered a “mitzvah”—technically, a Biblical commandment, but colloquially expressed as a general good deed. “Even if you’re secular, you want to celebrate Passover.“After three mitzvahs, you’re guaranteed a place in heaven,” Fass said. And a lot of the Jews I meet have been to all of the singles events in their city, and their mother has set them up.Concerns about Jewish continuity, about raising Jewish children and going through the essential motions of tradition can become important enough to overpower other reservations—even about a geographic relocation.One of Fass’s clients, a 43-year-old nurse who lives in Sydney, said he was receptive to meeting someone locally, but pragmatic about the odds: “A large proportion of our people live in Israel or America, and the idea is not to limit the prospective match.” Margaux Chetrit-Cassuto, a matchmaker with Three Matches in Montreal, said 90 percent of her clients are willing to consider relocation for the right partner.So, in many cities around the world, a hometown search might not last long.That’s where global matchmakers like Fass enter the picture, not to mention plenty of alternatives without the premium price tag.Fass started her matchmaking business as a hobby, but has been working at it full-time since 2013.
Jewish Singles work with a Jewish matchmaker to send them matches so that they can date compatible Jewish singles.
Montreal, London, and Melbourne each have fewer than 200,000 Jewish people, and Rome has fewer than 20,000. S., two trends are further winnowing the dating pool: More than half of American Jews now marry non-Jewish partners, and there are questions about the decline of Jewish identity among both Americans and Millennials.
A Pew survey from 2013 found that fewer American Jews are raising their children Jewish, and also found declining religiosity among Jewish Millennials, 32 percent of whom describe themselves as culturally or ethnically Jewish, but not religious.
Matchmaking is particularly popular among Orthodox Jews, some of whom seek a partner within a very insular community.
, an Israeli newspaper, noted that one website of Chabad (an Orthodox movement) lists 27 matchmakers in Brooklyn alone, and dozens more worldwide, from Cincinnati to Melbourne. Many secular Jews also turn to matchmakers, and the majority of Tel Aviv—where Fass was trying to drum up clients—is not particularly religious.