Last week we spoke to three sociologists who debunked some of the myths surrounding college dating — namely that hook-up culture is more of a subculture, and yes, dating still exists. We interviewed 30 campus co-eds to find out, and asked them whether or not they prefer hooking up to dating or vice versa.Their answers span the entire relationship spectrum, proving that attitudes towards college relationships are diverse and changing. Everyone at college is afraid of losing touch after graduation, so taking a chance on keeping someone around in a serious way is scary.It was hard to come to terms with it and get over the hurt, but I did get closure in an unexpected and nice way. Moving through different stages with this guy — from heartbreak to dysfunction to honest, real friendship — has taught me more in sixth months than I've learned in years.– Sadie*Being a hopeless romantic in this hook-up culture is its own special type of hell.People in this scene go out all the time, hook up with each other and become friends.Unfortunately, I didn’t learn this until I was a senior in high school and it was too late at this point.
If you can turn these mistakes around and use them for your benefit, I assure you, you will be meeting more girls, getting better grades, and feeling extremely productive in these amazing 4 years of your life. I was in a fraternity and had many opportunities to talk to girls. If I wasn’t so set on just attending fraternity and sorority parties I could have opened myself up to a whole new group of people.It was then that I realized how much I was missing out this entire time! If only I didn’t follow the same crowd and had the courage to carve my own path, then I would have had some fun adventures. Talk about a killer place to meet hot girls and have some serious social power.Once I started learning about attraction, I came to the sad conclusion that I could have taken advantage of being able to practice the skills of meeting and attracting women. In fact, that was how I thought meeting girls was supposed to be like: introductions. Instead, I complained about not being able to meet girls. By my senior year, I got fed up with doing this and started going to a few new spots. If I had applied that same mentality during college, I would have been more successful with the girls there and felt way better in the morning. But the only ones I talked to, were the ones that I was introduced to. I couldn’t get over the fear of being able to approach a woman and start a conversation out of thin air. However, something I do regret is using it as a crutch for my social life. The college that I went to was divided into two sections: greek life and G. After I graduated, I slowed down my drinking to just one per night and I ended up meeting more girls, getting more numbers and going on more dates. Because I was focused on the interactions with girls, rather then the amount of drinks I gulped down.That's the hopeless romantic in me talking and he'll never shut up.– Aaron*This semester I realized that I will always love someone who doesn't love me.When you date someone you get to know them and you form a real connection.Hooking up is superficial and the human aspect is completely lost.– Matt*I’m happy being single, but I also like the idea that there’s someone out there who likes you, thinks about you all the time, and wants to be with you.Guys don’t ever approach me and people say it’s because I’m intimidating but I literally look like I’m 12 years old so I don’t get it.