This will serve you well when you meet someone who is single and who has the qualities you like.
It will feel like “” The fact that you have lots of female friends is also an encouraging sign. So let’s talk about some stuff you can do differently to improve your life and your chances of meeting someone you’d like to be with.
But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.
While I think you have some particular cultural stuff you’re also trying to sort out, my advice to young straight men who want to meet women is always going to be about subverting the dominant dating paradigm and the sexist culture we grow up with, and it’s always gonna run along the same lines: 1) Read books & blogs, watch films, look at art, and listen to music made by women.
2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.
She wasn’t the nicest person and took advantage of me, but I hurt her feelings and I made sure when I came to my senses that I apologized, regardless of what she’d done, I messed up.
Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.