You begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the person in front of you.Rather than trying to learn who he is and what he’s about, you look at his behavior and the things he says as a means to measure how he feels about you…After a few great dates with a seemingly great guy, most women can’t help but get excited about the possibilities.They think of where the relationship might go and they start to invest in a fantasy future.
Numbers are exchanged, flirty texting ensues, and eventually you go on a date … The chemistry is strong, you connect, you have fun. Now you start to get really excited…could this be it?Maybe she’s trying to appear cool and go-with-the-flow, but in her mind she’s already thinking of ways to turn a relationship that’s really nothing at this point into something.From that point forward, it’s not easygoing and natural, it’s her measuring if she is getting closer or further from her goal. Everyone recognizes when someone has an agenda, it’s just something our intuition picks up on and it immediately puts us off.But it’s there and it comes across, even in the slightest ways.It changes your vibe and your energy and guys feel this.You didn’t even realize you were thirsty, it’s only when you begin to quench the silent thirst that you realize how potent it was. MORE: 5 Ways to Ruin a Budding Relationship It’s tough for someone to nail down the source of feeling not OK, but they unconsciously latch onto things that will get rid of this feeling, usually through reassurance or trying to make situations come about that they feel will make them happy and finally grant them relief.This inevitably impacts your vibe, you become a parasite of sorts and everyone you come into contact with is simply a means to an end.When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear.What makes it so destructive is that it’s not an overwhelming, gripping fear; it’s a vague feeling of unease.At this point, instead of him feeling like he’s connecting with you, he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him.Maybe it’s reassurance or validation, or maybe just more of the feeling of being OK.