"Now women are quite financially independent, so we partner up with someone because—radical thought—we like him.” In this new arena of increased gender equality, it seems that many women—like many men—find the company of a young and beautiful partner appealing and rewarding.
Attractive young men can play the same role long assigned to young women, entering into the unspoken agreement: “Be sexy, beautiful and obedient and I'll teach you a little bit about how the world works, show you off to my friends, buy you nice clothes, and have sex with you.” An eye-pleasing younger partner may eventually become a status symbol for the hard-working and powerful older woman.
Some sociologists speak of the ‘marriage squeeze’—the fact that single, middle-aged women have a shrinking pool of potential conventional partners (ie older, educated men with high incomes) and are thus compelled to seek alternative arrangements.
Others point to increased, rather than decreased, opportunities.
In this context, it appears there are many young men who could learn a thing or two from mature and experienced women.
recently published an interesting article about an advertising executive named Cindy Gallop, a successful businesswoman in her fifties, with the means and the appetite for action, who has turned her sexual experiences with young men into a protest of sorts, along with, of course, a TED conference talk and the obligatory web site.
In the lives of many young men, porn has taken over the role that parents, schools, and the innocent, halting experience of young romance were supposed to fill: real-life sex prep.
Cougars, says Gallop only half in jest, can teach some sexual sense, manners and real world skills to today’s clueless youth and thus serve a useful social function, all while having a rollicking good time.A whole generation is coming of age knowing how to do porn, but not how to make love.Gallop's qualms are not directed against pornography—she watches porn herself and appears to regard it as a legitimate auxiliary entertainment.Young women (ages 20-30) now earn on average more than young men, mainly because they are more educated.Women now constitute a majority in universities, medical and law schools, and doctoral programs.Even those who love to watch car chases in the movies may not want to advocate that young people learn how to drive from the movies or engage in wild car chases around town.Porn is sexual entertainment, titillation, distraction, or self-medication, but it’s not supposed to be taken literally as an account of how people generally have sex.The scientific data are scant, but anecdotally at least, it appears that the ‘cougar’ phenomenon—relatively older women choosing sexual relationships with younger men—is experiencing a flowering of sorts.There are a number of plausible reasons for the uptick in older woman-younger man couplings.In roughly a fifth of American families, women are the main breadwinners.When women are more independent financially, they have more power, more choices, and more influence.