It’s also when the other person feel this exceeding neediness from you, which leads the the suspicion that you have much less to offer than what you’ll be getting.
If that is the case, then of course the relationship would feel like the center of the world to you, as you are deriving most of your identity from your partner.
Whenever you are focusing on yourself and don’t notice other people, it’s the same as if you were alone.
The truth is, it’s very easy to deal with when you’ve planned out all the possibilities.
Are you staying up all night wondering if he/she feels the same way you do? Pretty much everyone has been in this situation at one time or another.
Here’s why: The root of all pain like this comes from your imagination and an uncertainty about what to do.
Do you realize that means you’re better off than you were before you entered the relationship? You’re now standing at a point higher than you were at before the relationship (and either higher or lower than when you were in the relationship depending on how you look at it). Now, if a relationship happens to come along which will make you happier – Okee dokie! A lot of pain comes as a result of not knowing yourself and what you want.
Just stop thinking about it and start doing the things you love. You’ll never get into a relationship again and do the things you love until you die. That’s because not knowing creates a lot of uncertainity in situations, which paralyzes you.