The pay sites have a serious interest in protecting their customers and maintaining good public relations.If you do call for help, supply actual e-mails or other data giving the supporting facts.When someone just won’t quit bothering you and all else fails, you have to dispense with being polite.Just as dogs get only one bite (actually, they don’t get any free bites), your discouraged suitor gets only one “apology” from you. The following line is pretty darn effective but only use it as a last resort:“You need to know that if you attempt to contact me again, I’ll report your activities as an abuse to the dating site.
Say that you’re in the midst of a phone call with a prospect (after some e-mail exchanges), and you realize that he or she just isn’t a match.Here are the Internet-appropriate ways to say no: Note that Internet dating sites vary in the sophistication of their features.On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.If a former prospect is dogging you, but not seriously enough to report him or her as an abuse, on some sites, you can search in Invisible or Stealth mode.Doing so prevents you from being seen on the Who’s Online feature.Granted, for some people, a more heavy-handed approach is necessary. Polite is good, but if it doesn’t work, try sterner and firmer. If you need further coaching, go to your local electric company’s customer service department and see how it handles you when you try to dispute a bill by saying, “I never used that electricity.” Many appropriate ways are available to encourage someone to move along. This article points out the major ways to do so in specific situations.Say that you get an e-mail from someone, and you can tell immediately that you have no interest in communicating with that person.You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.