While the bureau acknowledges that virtually everyone is at risk, it says internet scammers pay particular attention to “women over 40 who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled.” These cyber-criminals create elaborate profiles on singles sites, often with glamorous photos.Their goal: to separate you from your bank account.Some were intent on finding another lifemate in short order, while others seemed more interested in sampling different personalities and lifestyles.Internet dating puts all options on the table, and a growing number of sites cater to the more mature singles crowd.For instance, does “loves sports” mean you’re up for cross-country skiing and white-water rafting, or is it a declaration that every weekend is devoted to channel-surfing the pro and college games? Potential dates skimming your profile are more likely to respond to specifics.Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.A professional photo is a good idea, too — and if you do it right, you can wind up with one shot for your dating profile and one for your Linked In page. If we can’t pick you out of your bowling team lineup or every picture features you in floppy hats and big sunglasses, you’re unlikely to draw much attention.
Your profile needs at least one picture to get you in the game.Here’s a surprise: Some women just look at the pictures!Men are often accused of focusing exclusively on the physical, but I soon realized there are plenty of women who do the same.You may be brilliant, handsome, wealthy and a great humanitarian, but you’re a non-starter without the visuals.Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better.Fortunately, most dating sites today are pretty well regulated, and the option usually exists to report inappropriate postings.And guys, before sending a message with even a hint of sexual innuendo, think about what your mother would say, then remember that many of these women are mothers, and even grandmothers, for that matter.And even though procreation is off the table, I picked up clear signals from the women I met online that the meter is running, so it’s best to get on with things.Most wanted to push past the introductory emails and calls to schedule a get-together ASAP.Trust me, no one wants to see your personal care items or shower curtain.Move to another room (or go outside) and have someone else take your picture.