See also: Find love in the new year with AARP Dating.But just becomes it's relatively easy to find a potential partner doesn't mean you should start dating before you think about your goals and desires.A whole host of online dating sites have sprung up to help you meet great people from social networks that normally don't intersect with yours.Some of these sites are specifically geared to the 50-plus crowd, and they are attracting more and more single, divorced and widowed people than ever before.There will be plenty of time to exchange more profound information, if there is enough interest and attraction between you. "I know how to listen." Of course we all like to talk about ourselves and the things that interest us.But a common mistake is to be so overwhelming that the other person never gets to say anything about him or herself.Sure, it can be dispiriting to have a series of coffee dates with guys or gals who just aren't right for you.But try to use these occasions simply to learn about someone else's world and life. Perfect." If you've got a long list of sterling qualities, characteristics and lifestyle criteria, you are going to have a tough time finding anyone who's good enough for you. And remember to stay positive: If you want to find a new partner and you're willing to work at it, you definitely will!
My audiences are people who are motivated enough to show up at such an event — but scared silly about diving into a dating world they hadn't even thought about for decades!It's my job not only to teach them some new skills about dating, but to calm their fears.I reassure them by saying that taking that first step is the hardest part.Since most of us can't see ourselves objectively, it's a great idea to have a close friend take a good look at you and offer some advice. "I'm ready to have a good time." Most people in our age group are looking for someone with energy, optimism and warmth.If you are feeling unhappy, you won't be able to provide any of these.Truly, the most winning way to get to know people is to get them to talk about themselves — and really listen closely.Ask questions; help them be comfortable with you, and then reciprocate.Someone who has a chronic or life-threatening illness, for example, might feel compelled to talk about it, even during a first meeting.But this goes against the first rules of dating: Keep it light, and let your date see your most attractive characteristics first.That doesn't mean you have to be model thin or that you need to wear the latest style.But showing some respect for your appearance will reflect better on you than sloppy grooming, wrinkled or ill fitting clothes and a dangerous body weight.