Men and women have different perspectives about dating and marriage.The one you are willing to date may be open to having a relationship but may never consider getting married ever again.*** Occasionally I’ll get emails from men who are dating young widows.They stumble across this blog, read it, and want to know if I’d give the same advice to someone who was dating a widow as someone who was dating a widower.
If you decide to date a widow/widower, your love becomes that ray of hope in their lives.
Most men went on to have love, children and good lives with nary a backward glance at that first love.
Sure, they may be pleased to have a second shot later in life with a girl whom they can only recall as a girl, but if they’d never heard from her again – they’d have found someone else to be happy with. Practical in a cold-blooded way that (most) women aren’t.
What she writes sounds true to me but I’m not a woman or a widow. I know on the occasions I’ve talked face-to-face with (young) widows, I can tell they approach grief and moving on very differently than (young) widowers.
It’s not a bad thing just an innate difference between the sexes. That being said my main advice to men dating widows remains the same: You should feel like number one when you’re with her and shouldn’t have any doubts or concerns whether or not she’s ready to start a new life with you.