Also defying conventional wisdom, Finkel’s research suggests that playing hard to get is not the way to go when you meet that special someone who undeniably makes the sparks fly.
“If you are uniquely attracted to one person above and beyond how you are attracted to most people, that person often will be romantically attracted to you,” Finkel says his research shows.
CHICAGO (Reuters) - Combing dating websites for that perfect love match can be very frustrating, and a group of U. psychology professors released a report on Monday explaining why there is no substitute for meeting face-to-face.Why are we attracted to some people and not others?What is it that makes strangers click in a romantic way?There are different opinions about online dating, but critics often consider it shallow, like the classic Tinder 'swipe left or right' on a person's photos to decide if they want to date them.Some have also pointed out that the app is only useful for hookups, and even condemned it for ruining dating.But it's important to remember that it was never supposed to be easy to meet the right person.Trying to grasp the vagaries of romantic love has for centuries been left to the poets and philosophers.Don’t wait, he says, “to express that interest and convey also that here is someone with standards.” More highlights: • Romantic relationships are one of the biggest predictors of quality-of-life for those who have reached a reasonable standard of living.• Quest to find a romantic partner is a huge economic force, with billions being spent on online dating, at bars, restaurants and beyond."What we want is a great deal of choice, and the easy access to possible partners is online."The All-or-Nothing Marriage," he shares his research findings which deems that women today are marrying later, and they're using those extra years before marriage to establish their careers, learn about themselves and to date more broadly."Through dating a number of people (whether it's serious or more casual), we get to learn about ourselves, who we are in the context of a relationship and what we need in a partner," Eli said.Technology is enabling all of that in the background, which is a positive thing, because it allows people to make more sensible decisions when it comes time to marry, he explained.