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I also knew someone who did porn who refused to work with non-white scene partners.
He said, ‘it would be too degrading to be topped by a Black man.’” “Men calling those of Arab descent “pakis” also the word ‘nigger’ being used.” “I’ve seen people reject guys due to them being Black, white and South Asian.” “A friend saying he would never have sex with a Black man.” “My Black boyfriend constantly harassed/turned away by doormen; and all kinds of permutations of racism in the way men select prospective partners, friends and generally treat each other.” “People on the club scene using terms such as curry queen or dinge queen when talking about guys who have Black or Indian partners.” “Comments from other punters in bars: ‘I can’t accommodate a black cock as I’m afraid of splitting and shitting’.” “People making fun of Chinese guys in Circa bar.” “I’ve heard derogatory comments about ‘rice queens’.
If straight people were to believe every stereotype about gay men then we would all be lablled camp sex mad divas.
But we are not and we know there is a lot more diversity to the gay community that what many straight people think.
Black men are more active, strong and dominant in the bedroom: 60% of white gay men believe this to be true.Believing stereotypes about Black and minority ethnic men prevents us from responding to each other as individuals.Open your mind a little and do your best to forget common stereotypes.Asian men are mostly submissive bottoms: 56% believe this to be true.Arab men aren’t gay if they’re top only: 35% thought this to be true.Examples of racial stereotyping that our respondents had encountered included: “Irish men are alcoholics.” “Scots are aggressive.Irish people are stupid.” “Asian men seem to go for older Europeans.” “South Asian boys won’t suck.And we were surprised by some examples of more overt racism.Many stereotypes exist about different ethnic groups.Sexual racism dressed up as preference.” “I see racism particularly on online apps people who insist on “no Asians” or “whites only”.People say it is a ‘preference’ but I consider it racism.” “A South Asian man (Sikh, wearing a turban) turned away from the Green Carnation because it was a ‘private event’. I did complain to the manager.” “White drunk guys screaming ‘chinky boys’ and doing slitty eyes at a group of young quiet and scared Chinese gay guys.” “Racist language used in online profiles.