You know qualities you are hoping to find in someone else and many of your topics should be used to discover if your date has these qualities. I’ll break down the first date conversations into three categories and discuss each.At the same time, you can’t put your date “on trial” so you need to mix your conversations up between discovery, simple light-hearted small-talk, and sharing about yourself. However, any good date won’t require as much thinking as this information suggests.Also, I would ask general questions like how long she had been online dating, if she had any success, if she gets a lot of contacts, and other non-intrusive conversations.Aside from making excellent small-talk, these conversations also humanize you.Early on, there may not be much you care to discover; this was the case for me.However, the more I dated, the more qualities I identified as something I desired.Just be familiar with what you want to know and what you want to share.If there is a connection, things will fall together on their own.
It isn’t that I gained confidence, I just planned ahead.I would also recommend keeping up on current events (even though I found most of my dates weren’t doing the same) and finding some other light-hearted conversation fodder. I live in Pittsburgh and at the time my city had been voted the worst city for singles.This conversation always resulted in good discussion on my dates.I found this made for excellent small-talk and I also found that once I started, my dates had stories that they were excited to share.There were frequently “My dates have been worse than yours” competitions that were both friendly and fun.This article discusses my general approach for first date conversations with online dating.If you’re instead looking for a list ideas, check out my article on First Date Questions and Conversation Starters.You may not have any interesting stories but that doesn’t make discussing online dating a bad idea.I went so far as to share the horror stories that women shared with me on later dates.This refers to parts of your conversation where you are discovering if who you have just met has what you are looking for.This is important to mention because you are looking for particular qualities whether you’ve admitted it or not.