"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.
In fact, there doesn't even have to be a specific someone else.Make an effort to do these things on a regular basis, but also make sure you're showing your selfless side when you're with him.When you're a kind and gracious person, men (and women) are more likely to want to be around you—both consciously Think beyond dinner and after-drinks for your next date.No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him.Little things in your everyday life, from buying coffee for the woman in line behind you to walking your neighbor's dog, count too.Finally, participants indicated how easily they could find someone to replace their partner, responding to statements like, "I would have little trouble finding someone who could serve as an adequate replacement for my current dating partner." About three months later, participants were asked whether they were still dating their partners.Results showed that participants were less likely to have gone through a breakup if they had a less desirable best actual imagined alternative partner and if they thought they would have a harder time finding a replacement partner.You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure. Bottom line: Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. 1 piece of advice is to never to bring up the "What are we? "It's like going to a party, turning off the music, turning on the lights, and asking, 'Are we all having a good time here? "A good relationship is built on momentum, and putting a stop to the fun to 'check in' is a surefire way to kill the romance."Let things progress naturally and look at the evidence: Does he try to see you whenever he's free?Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official." "Men who are wary of commitment want to feel like You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though.While researching a story on signs that your relationship is failing, I came across one sign that seemed glaringly obvious — but that I'd never given much thought to before.A study published in 1987 by Jeffry Simpson, then at Texas A&M University, found that people were more likely to break up with their partner if they felt as if they could find someone else just as good — or better — to date.