Tess: OK, so here's the question: Dow does a new couple navigate the waters of sharing about themselves openly and honestly without overwhelming the other with information and/or going too quickly in the relationship so as to make it unhealthy?
The beginning of a relationship is really cool..you do need to do the work of getting to know each other, but yeah, there’s a limit.I'm a little guarded when it comes to sharing about the inner workings of me.I want to make sure we build our relationship on a foundation of openness and honesty, but I also want to take things slowly.Ask yourself the same questions, and you may find that you are more willing to open up in this area. In this case, Tess, you and your guy have a responsibility to get to know each other in a way that is more than just friends. Let those things lead into natural questions about your hopes and dreams.I have found that this kind of internal examination is really helpful when deciding what and when to share information with a significant other. I’ve known more than a few people who simply did not know how to draw an appropriate line. It’s important to resist “trauma bonding,” where you share and compare your most troubling stories as a way to foster a false intimacy.I know I felt like this when I met my husband, Joe.I was on a high and couldn’t wait to spend every second with him (although I tried to play it cool).Another incentive for your partner’s desire to take things slow may simply have to do with his or her comfort level and/or the importance that he or she places on certain physical acts.For example, some people choose to be intimate right away, while others want to wait for an indefinite amount of time before moving their relationship to new levels.If your partner wants to take it slow, another motivation for this approach is that he or she doesn’t want to ruin or rush the good thing you have going together.After all, many relationships that start off too fast can end up leading to heartache and heartbreak because you and your partner took major relationship steps before really getting to know each other.