She was shocked to see what a negative impression her posture had given.From that moment on, she made sure to keep her chin up, she kept her arms in an open position and she smiled and make eye contact whenever she saw someone she was interested in meeting.Your body language can either radiate positive energy and a feeling of openness or can tell people stay away.Crossed arms can mean, "I'm feeling vulnerable and need to protect myself," or it can mean, "I'm not open to you.Only the densest person would fail to get the message.Your body language has said it all, without a word being spoken.Below are some cues to look for: Positive body language - your partner might move towards you and decreasing the space between you two, if he or she likes what you are doing or asking.In addition, other liking behavior can include: Negative body language - your partner might move away from you and create space between you two, if he or she dislikes what you are doing or asking.
Your posture, how you position your body in relation to theirs, touch, and facial expression are all ways that can communicate openness or disinterest.Leave me alone."If you want to be approachable, do not cross your arms.Lift your chin slightly to make eye contact easier, and straighten your shoulders to let people know you are alert and open to meeting them.Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor In my articles, I spend a lot of time giving you tips, tricks, and techniques to motivate and persuade your lovers see here , here , here , here, here , here, and here. To use these tips and tactics, however, requires a bit of interpersonal sensitivity - what dating coaches might call "calibration".Such sensitivity, feedback, and adaptation is essential for any interpersonal influence - even love. Are they going to say yes to a date, marriage proposal, or weekend vacation?In addition, other behaviors that signal dislike include: Using Body Language in Dating and Relating When you are trying to figure out how your partner feels about you or your approach, look for combinations of the behaviors above called clusters.Generally, when you see a couple of "positive" cues from the list above, you can bet your partner's limbic system is firing in the "good", happy, and loving direction.These limbic system signals are particularly important for romance, because that part of our brain is also responsible for our feelings of love Fisher, Aron, Brown, So, how do you know when your partner's brain is happy?You look for clusters of positive or negative body language.You have no interest in him or her at all, and in fact, you want the person to leave you alone.What what you do to convey that message, short of telling the person to get lost? You would look over the person's shoulder at a spot across the room, or you might even turn your head away.