For myself, 3 of the 4 siblings my husband has, have met their wives and now soon to be husband, in this traditional way. I am use to the idea, and contrary to my often Western thinking, I even like the idea.I thought it would be a good time to not only increase the awareness of how engagement and marriage is done here in Jordan, but also in Islam. I thought this would be a good opportunity to explain the rational behind ‘arranged marriages’ in Islam, and what arranged marriage actually means here in Jordan.Place your right hand over your heart and politely make your excuses.Many families, particularly in rural areas, are very traditional and, if you visit their house, you may well find it is divided between the men and women.In Islam, and typically in Jordan, dating is forbidden. During this time of dating, many men, but especially many women get hurt.Dating is forbidden to protect the man and mostly the woman from unintentional or intentional harm. Whether it was intentional or unintentional, the fact is they get harmed through dating.I find myself writing this blog, because my sister-in-law has recently become engaged to a man, the traditional way in Islam and in Jordan.I am reflecting on the traditional way and trying to open the minds of my beloved Western friends and family who have never been exposed to this type of relationship before.
The couple decides they want to get married, family permission is required, and the engagement goes forth. Imagine, that you have never dated, never been in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex prior to marriage.When planning your travel to Jordan, allocating time to experience local culture will not be regrettable.Jordanians are at their best when hosting you at their home.May be you did not fall in love with the person prior to marrying them; however, with time they usually fall in love or have a common bond that holds their marriage strong.In fact, in the dating world, you may have fallen in love with the people prior to marriage and shortly fall out of love because it is a feeling or you are comparing to previous relationships, or have been hurt by previous partners.Having a meal at the home of a Jordanian family in a small town or village in Jordan is an unforgettable experience of authentic Jordan.Throughout history, women in Jordan's political, social and economic status has varied based on the legal, traditional, cultural and religious values at the time.Foreign women are often treated as honorary ‘men'.Being introduced to Jordanian culture through interaction with locals is an amazing experience that is not included enough in Jordan tours.Traditional and cultural ideals of femininity also effect how women are viewed and treated in Jordan.Women in Jordan, however, did not receive the right to vote until 1974.