I voted to keep this thread going, just because the intensity of the replies indicates that it is something that requires ongoing discussion, even though it HAS been done before.
When someone is "just looking for friends" they're establishing right off the bat 'whatever happens happens but I have the right to go 'hehe you're a mistake."Agree/disagree?This is just based on my observations by browsing women and reading their profiles.They've joined with the intent of being friends only to change their intent to dating/long-term later down the road."I live in hope that men will stop emailing hoping to change my mind Actually, I am not looking for emails at all....................I have my profile listed as "friends" - "forums" is currently not an option.Well, this is a dating site like you said so what do they expect? The only ones who say they are looking for friends are just looking for the long road to get into a woman's pants."You're right.I say that because it really does seem like guys who come here for friendship only are totally delusional or shooting themselves in the foot. Guys don't go on a dating site looking for female "friends".Its not like they're going to go out of their way to hang out with you again.Especially since they got probably 2052052 more messages waiting.Plus in all likelihood you will judge me as 'bad' or 'wrong' for some of the things in my behavior limitations so I am not going to be direct with them, you have to read my mind, and know it's inherent in my definition of 'friends'.""IOW I want the power to control your behavior towards giving me what I want, but I have no desire for the responsibility and possible negative judgments. BUT, will take advantage of "dating", meaning let the guy pay the first couple of times.....Therefore I go through the back door and offer you the false gift of friendship. If the man says lets go hang out and says "lets go dutch"....she can pull the "I cant beleive you asked me out and want me to pay!!! ....she can pull the "I do want a friend, I want a lover and a friend, hoping to find both"If you come across a woman looking for friends, call her bluff, ask her out and when the bill comes say...."well here is my half"..see what kind of reaction you get.....1.