As a currently engaged Hispanic-American woman engaged to a Muslim-Arab Moroccan man both in our 20’s, I figured I should at least share some light our experiences dating and make these “taboos” stop sounding so scary.
To begin, I want to say the thing some people will hate to admit: Moroccans date.
So you can see my discomfort in admitting I’ve had boyfriends, when it’s associated with sex in a rural place where social status and respect is relative to your marital status or if you date.
On the flip side, dating in the major cities is easier to nod into the seen and “not see .” Living in Marrakech, I was able to meet and befriend 20-something year old Moroccans, both guys and girls who dated other Moroccans or foreigners. Personally I know some people whose families are more comfortable with their young adult children bringing their “best friend” home.
The one thing I hope you take away from this post is that there’s no guide to “dating a Moroccan.” They’re human just like everyone else.
Actually we didn’t openly express to the family we were a couple until we had a group discussion about us deciding to file a fiancé visa in other to move forward with our future.
Mind you this is AFTER my mom and family members had come to Morocco and met his family.
The best way I can put it is that there’s a kind of “don’t ask, don’t tell” mentality. In my own experience, I only became aware of teenagers crushing on each other from my pseudo-village confidante position being the only American in the village.
They assume as an American I’ve dated so they would ask me questions about it but knowing its considered inappropriate in Morocco, I’d keep their secrets and give general advice but I avoided giving specifics like “How many boyfriends have you had? ” Another reason I didn’t really engage in discussing dating in the villages I lived in was another cultural tidbit you might not know about.