"Sending love notes, flowers and gifts shows your partner that you appreciate him or her and it's not just rote," Masini explains."It also shakes him out of any rut your partner has been in, and he or she will feel appreciated and he likes and will want to make sure you do too."See More: Fun Date Night Ideas to Try in the New Year Masini admits that it seems backwards to plan for romance, "because making and keeping a date night when you're married and busy may feel like a chore, which isn't how dating should feel." But wine in hand and excellent food in fork, "you'll relax into the date and feel like marriage is good because you can do this," she says."Call your partner up during the day and talk sexy," suggests Masini."Or compliment your partner by telling him or her how hot he or she is, what you like best about sex with him or her, and what you want to do with him or her later that evening." Not only will this back-and-forth banter give your spouse a confidence boost, but when you let your partner know how much he or she turns you on, "you're recreating that dating feeling and stimulating your marriage," Masini says.
The relationships are real relationships, and the people are (most likely) someone else’s future husband or wife.Dating is an intentional pursuit of marriage, not casual preparation for it.Unfortunately, many of us are being told we must date early and often if we ever want to be ready for marriage.Says Masini, "Hand holding is one of the first shows of affection, and one of the first to be discarded when a relationship gets a little stale." Why?Masini believes it's easier for many couples to be together without connecting by hand, or any other way.I definitely do not expect everyone to agree with me.Godly wisdom is a wide stream, and God’s word often allows us to apply his heart and wisdom in remarkably different ways, even in dating. It came in many forms, but it goes something like this: So, I started paying tuition, registered for classes, purchased the textbooks, jumped into relationship after relationship, and never looked back — until I wanted my money back.But a lack of lust is something you can overcome — and even create."Keeping your marriage hot increases your chances of keeping your relationship committed," she says.The truth is we have given dating far too much credit, and far too much power in our pursuit of marriage.And because we misunderstand and misuse dating, we end up making more and greater mistakes in our search for love.