Although she denies it, our daughter ended her previous relationship to date this man. If you don’t criticize, you don’t give her an opportunity to defend him.As parents, we are REALLY struggling and finding it very difficult to accept this age difference. Any advice, direction or coping skills would be most appreciated. Continue to be supportive of her and keep the communication open.“First, our society — and perhaps especially celebrity culture — is youth obsessed, and much more so for women than men.Thus, the ‘value’ a woman brings is intimately tied to her youth (and beauty, and other markers that have little to do with actual inherent human value).Our daughter still lives with us (and her 17-year-old brother) but frequently spends the night with this man.He often takes her out for dinner and showered her with gifts at Christmas (while she enjoys this, it does not seem to overly impress her).Our 22-year-old daughter is dating a 38-year-old co-worker (he has his own home and a thirteen-year-old son who lives with the mother).
What are attractive and valuable in our society for women are youth, beauty…for men, less so.” These all likely are contributing in some way to this type of relationship/attraction, even if the men involved aren’t really in touch with why they are attracted to someone who is so much younger.There's a simplicity to relationships with younger women.One thing I will never understand is how relationships can't be serious and about sex. I didn't expect us to get married, if that's what you mean,” said another.Occasionally relationships with a large age difference work out but this is not typical.It does sound that he has other challenges in his life that may make him a less desirable partner for your daughter. We feel that we are walking a fine line…being supportive and accepting, but not wanting to push too hard for fear she will simply rebel against us and move in with this man.Our daughter is mature and has been in 2 previous relationships, but is also known to still have episodes of thumb sucking at home (although mature, she is still looking for nurturing). There is no value in mentioning your concerns as she already knows your position.In fact, one interesting theory is that as men approach middle age, they begin thinking about death more and more, and begin to behave almost like vampires, believing that they can “live forever” just by being in the vicinity of youth. In addition to staring death in the face, there are other theories that address why much older men date actual teenager.Most aren’t even aware that this is what’s going on, says A. “Probably the most prominent would be evolutionary psychology, which posits that men are attracted to youth and the kind of beauty that is unconsciously linked to procreation,” Wright says.His latest rumored “girlfriend," Juliette Perkins, is also 19. The two have been spotted nightclubbing together recently, although it's not clear whose ID Juliette is using.(since Leo's girlfriends all look lie clones of each other, we're assuming any one of his exes.) Thankfully, the music is loud where these couples like to go, because what could a grown man possibly be chatting up a 19-year-old girl about? Just FYI, Carmen Electra and Dennis Rodman were married for nine days, George Michael was arrested in 1998 for "engaging in a lewd act" in a public restroom in a Beverly Hills, CA.