One day, I'm going to write a New York Times best-selling memoir, and I'm going to call it "Dating with Anxiety."OK, maybe that won't be the title, but it will definitely be a FAT chapter in the book about my haphazard life.I've struggled with anxiety and panic attacks ever since I came down from prescription speed for the first time at age 16.It would take one big glass of wine to slightly ease our nerves and another big glass to give us the courage to actually take a taxi to the date.And occasionally, we would even do a shot of liquor before we went out the door, just in case the taxi ride was long and we sobered up by the time we arrived.As the chemicals sifted out of my body, I lay in bed wide awake until 10 am.My eyes were the size of saucers, and the covers were pulled over my trembling head, as the debilitating, irrational fear of the death consumed me."This is it," I crazily thought to myself.
Our body gets ready to ‘fight or flight.’ The physical symptoms come along, like increased heart rate, sweating, and sometimes even the shakes. [ALSO READ: Posting Couple-y Photos on Facebook Does a Relationship Good]How can we ease our nerves?Over 60s dating isn’t usually something we grew up hearing about – in many cultures it’s been custom to stay single if you’ve lost a partner in your sixties.Today times are changing and they should be – at sixty you might have forty or more years left of your life, so why stay single?Maybe you aren’t looking for the next greatest love of your life. Many people who join these sites are simply looking for a friend — someone who they can share stories with, reminisce on days gone by, and maybe even meet up and go on day trips with. Wine, roses, moonlit walks, slow dancing, and chocolate are going to be just as enjoyable, if in a different way from when you were twenty.While we hope that love is a possibility for the men and women on our site, we are pleased to know that they can find someone who they can relate with — even if it is only on a platonic level. Some pessimists think life stops when you get over sixty.Call it butterflies, sweaty palms or anxiety, but it is all present and so very, well, nerve wracking!Just a few months ago I was en route to meet the Italian bartender and my heart began to race. Neomam Studios created an infographic called ‘The Psychology of Dating’ that explores the reasons why we get nervous on dates, and how we can ease our dating anxiety.We were both dating with anxiety and had the scars to prove it.We concluded that our failed dating lives were a direct result of living in a perpetual state of ~panic~.Dating doesn’t stop though, nor does life, and if anything at this age you probably know a bit better what you would love than what you did at twenty.You can build new dreams, or explore the ones you never had time for before.