They range from inexperienced college students to widowers trying to meet new people.A significant number are from foreign countries, and are hoping to familiarize themselves with American customs.As soon as he sat down, he informed me that he was in the process of a separation.I thought perhaps he was telling me this as part of some moral obligation. He was in his late 20s, and we were sitting on a bench in Central Park on a lovely summer day. But I was also fairly sure that this sort of come-on was how 22-year-old liberal arts graduates were lured into prostitution rings.However, I would be expected to go on “mock dates.” The clients — mostly male, although some are female — are adults of all ages and professions looking to become better daters.
He swaggered over, sat down with his legs spread and immediately slapped the table like a crazy person’s high-five.Do whatever fits your personal definition of what a “nice” person does. About three years ago, I met with a man in his 50s.He had a stocky build, salt-and-pepper hair and a receding hairline.Art and other coaches help show them what to wear, how to set up appealing online dating profiles, accompany them out to nightclubs and bars and help them rehearse a coffee date with a girl. So in exchange for per session — mock dates run about half an hour — I agreed to sit and have coffee with a client who is told to behave as though he’s on a first date with me.Art sits at the next table and takes notes on what the client does right or wrong.I told him that women actually do want to date nice guys, but they don’t want to date guys who are pretending to be nice in exchange for sex.I also couldn’t help but feel relieved that I have genuinely kind male friends, who aren’t just listening to women because they think it will lead to sex — and who have no trouble getting laid.Some are pressured to enlist an expert by their parents, who pay for the dating coach.Others simply have a more practical, New York approach — why not hire an expert to teach them how to date better?Almost all are looking for long-term relationships.My main goal is just to make sure the person has fun.