It would be like me saying that I want to drive a car, but I’ll only drive a hot pink Lamborghini that I see being driven down my street. I don’t blame you, Steve, for not wanting to have kids.
It’s a huge decision, a life-altering decision, and you shouldn’t do it if it makes you feel profoundly uncomfortable.
I’m wondering if there are other types of women worth taking a risk on.
Maybe women who may have listed a less than accurate preference about having children to not scare people away?
Act with integrity and his pool of dateable women diminishes considerably.
You’re in a minority in your preferences if you were into BDSM, or were an animal activist, or gave half your earnings to the Pentecostal Church.
He was such a great man in so many ways & his reasons for not wanting kids were so sensible that I was willing to imagine a kid-free future. Besides, if you keep getting older you’ll basically be dating women past that age anyway.
Evan I just thought I would weigh in from the woman’s perspective.At first I was dismayed, but after some reflection told him we didn’t need to worry about that just yet and let’s just see how everything else goes.Not all women are looking for the One (or believe in the One for that matter), and not all women have considered the possibilities.There’s no judgment against minorities, but we must acknowledge that if you insist that your partner also have your non-mainstream preference, there are going to be far fewer singles from which to choose.Simple exercise: Ask yourself what percent of people are ALSO (hardcore bikers, jobless backpackers, Buddhists who don’t believe in possessions)?Of course, he’s more worried about getting hurt than he is about hurting the woman, but we’ll leave that aside.The point is that he is, as he pointed out, in a position of scarcity.The option of least risk would be to filter my searches to only return profiles of women who are sure they don’t want to be parents.My problem with that option is that it also returns a greatly reduced number of profiles.These are not choices, but they are groups that face longer odds because they don’t fit into many people’s preferences. The Jewish rocker could cut his hair to appeal to his demographic.So if you’re in one of the above minorities and you’re faced with a frustrating situation, you have a choice: Keep doing what you’re doing, or change. I just have to point out the obvious: If you’re only open to dating 5% of the population – you’re going to have a harder time finding love. The vegan could tolerate a man who eats chicken and eggs.