But somewhere along the way, I lost the balance between online and offline. That all remains to be seen, but for now, I'm feeling good about my break. Ashley Arn, lead matchmaker for e H , e Harmony's premium matchmaking service, has worked with thousands of people over the last decade and is responsible for countless successful couples.
Maybe the dating scene changed, maybe I was too distracted on them, maybe I was on too many apps, or maybe I just got lazy. She explains that online dating isn't for everyone: "Even a short break can be a great way for you to force yourself into connecting with people a different way, and even figure out if you want to continue down the online/app path at all."While I definitely feel bored at times (sorry Snapchat, you're just not as entertaining) without my dating apps, I do feel more positive about being single, less distracted, and definitely less overwhelmed by my phone. I'm not sure what I'm excited for, exactly, but this feels like reinforcement to be the outgoing Aries I know I am. I didn't do this challenge to take a break from dating, but I think a natural side effect will be fewer dates (I have been on two dates this month, and they were both with people I had met on apps in March). But I should start to adopt new dating habits during my break. I went out with Thomas Edwards, founder of The Professional Wingman, last November to get tips for meeting people at bars, so I consulted him for App-less April advice.
But now, with 15 percent of Americans dating online and dating site and app usage having tripled since 2013, meeting someone offline can feel like a lost art — even though research says it's still the number-one way couples are meeting.
Or asked your friends, 'Introduce me to the most random, unlikely person you can think of? and then find a singles event around it in your area. — Raeeka Yaghmai, Certified Dating and Relationship and Founder of Dating with Confidence Break out of your routine!Maybe that involves going to as many singles groups and events as possible. Expanding your horizons not only exposes you to new people, but you have the added bonus of becoming a more interesting date for Mr. — Annie Mayo, Elite Matchmaker at It's Just Lunch Denver First impressions are extremely important.Tap into your hobbies — hiking groups, wine tastings, cooking classes, etc. And the “first of the first impressions” is your body language.When I ask them how they put themselves in a good position to meet potential matches, I hear the same two answers every, stinkin', time! First of all, while there is nothing necessarily wrong with these locations, we know, for the most part, what people's intentions are in these locations, especially when compared to others.I tell people to go bowling, go to wineries, stroll in a walkable area that has good window shopping and little cafes to stop in.And, in line with this one piece of advice, quit acting as though every time you are 'out with friends,' you are not open to being hit on. At a minimum, allow someone to approach your space and, if nothing else, give you their number.— Chris Armstrong, Relationship Coach and Owner/Operator of Maze of Love Just like if you were searching for a job, dating is no different! Make sure that you plan to go to events that are the right age group and are not just labeled for "singles." Make use of a Meetup account to find activities beyond just April when you've deleted your apps!Either way, I knew it was time for a change in my dating habits, and I found some other singles who were up for the challenge. He tells me that people become more aware of themselves and other people around them when they start dating offline.I'm not swearing these apps off forever or saying they're bad for everyone, but just like with clean eating detoxes or Sober January, I'm reevaluating my relationship with them. "They see their strengths and weaknesses when it comes to socializing in various environments," he says.If you are under 40, join a recreational sports league.It's a great way to repeatedly meet people and do something that's not focused on being in a bar.