I had been so conditioned to be blown off, I thought he was politely breaking up with me.So we didn't really talk for a couple days, which felt like a long time. I realized he wasn't trying to end things; he did want to keep dating.Neither of us was looking for anything super-serious, but we kept hanging out regularly and it just kind of happened without either of us noticing.I have a son from a previous relationship — Jackson, he was 2 at the time — and they met and just really hit it off.Eddy was the one who messaged me first, and initially I never got back to him.Then he was ready to quit online dating, and as a last-ditch effort he sent me a message, like, And I actually texted him back, because I looked at his profile and saw that he was Australian, and who doesn't want to go on a date with an Australian babe?!Matt messaged me, and we talked a little bit, and just kind of got everything big, all of our baggage, out right away so we could see if it was even worth continuing to talk. We just talked nonstop from that point, and we went on our first date a week later.I gave him my phone number and he texted me, "Hi, Hannah, it's Matt." And I said: "Which Matt? We went on a hike, and we put wine in water bottles and had a little picnic at the end of the hike.
I was just not into it, and was about to quit, but then I saw this guy.
And you're not going to meet somebody at a bar if you're a single mom. Five months into dating, he proposed, but we had already been talking about it for a few months. So I saw that Khalil liked me, and at this point, it was kind of overwhelming to be a girl doing online dating — I needed to make a spreadsheet or something. After doing online dating for a while, what I knew was I'd rather not spend a long time getting to know him.
He had met my son, so we had to ask: Do we have a future? I don't know what I did to deserve this, but I'm just going with it. But I liked him back, and he messaged me right away. If he seemed normal, we'd have a drink, rather than building up this idea of who he is. On the site we used, they have a question that asks the things you can't live without, and I wrote was bad for the eyes and something about the evil eye. I actually forgot his name — I only remembered that he was no. When I got home, he texted me that he was deleting his account, and I was like, OK. It was the beginning of summer in New York, and every weekend was busy.
I had not changed my location settings or my age settings from the default, so Matt kind of snuck in there, because there's a 13-year age difference and we lived 50 miles apart.
So we got a match, but neither of us was really taking it seriously.