I feel stupid for falling for her lies over and over but I still have strong feelings for her.
I have grown from the whole experience but am still very confused. Should I break it off or find a way to get over it and go ahead with our new relationship?
The truth is that a relationship dies once you step outside of it, particularly in your case.
It was your first love and first loves always come with a strong sense of innocence and vulnerability.
You need to ask yourself is she in it for me or the way I feel about her?
If it’s the way that you feel about her then just about anyone could take your place.
You can only ignore your intuition about someone for so long so we will go with the other solution: constant surveillance.During the time when she should have been building that trust she was sneaking around on you with another guy.Vulnerability of a first love combined with her not creating strong trust in the relationship will create a lot of trust issues.There are some people who make a mistake of cheating once, come clean and break it off the relationship.They wronged the other person because the relationship wasn’t working in the first place.The more open you are, the more it will hurt when someone betrays you like she did.Once your trust is broken it’s almost impossible to get that naive wide eyed feeling back.The problem with this solution is that your paranoia and watching her every move will cause her to lose attraction for you.This could lead her to cheat on you again or even worse stay in a non-attraction based relationship.In a new relationship they feel amazing when they hear ‘I love you’ and their self esteem rises.After a while of hearing the L word on a daily basis it starts to lose it’s value and so do they.