If that is where your mind is, you are missing some key data. This becomes diagnostic of how invested he is in you. If he is putting so little effort into your dating relationship, what will happen once he gets comfortable? If you go to his house instead of him coming to pick you up, I have two words for you: booty call. Although, if after two weeks you do start fantasizing about marriage and children, we need to talk. There is no way you know enough about him that quickly to make a lifelong commitment. Think about it in mathematical terms, if you put in 100% effort, how much is left for him to give? The less effort you put in, the more he has to come forward. This is especially true for the early dating phase.
A number of the articles I've read have promising titles or sub-titles, but they qualify the initial admonition to "look good" with so many caveats and clarifications that by the end they've essentially told the reader to "be herself" - which is nothing more than a waste of her time.It is the height of hyperbole - you might even say a myth - that women are either born attractive or not.To drive this point home, I spent entirely too much time identifying the various components of feminine beauty and quantifying the importance of each one.I recently realized that their lack of success in dating has very little to do with the men they date. If you are struggling with this concept, go back to rule four. Just like with children who will tell you they don’t want rules, but they function much better and are happier with them. Men will easily get turned off by a woman who calls or texts too much.Rather, it has to do with how my friends approach dating. Now, I have some single friends who live at home and don’t want a date to pick them up and “meet the parents”. A woman who has nothing going on and is always at their beck and call is not desirable for a relationship. So let me ask you, do you want to be an afterthought or do you want to be respected? It is overwhelming and can end a relationship before it starts. You have so many people and activities competing for your time and attention, you don’t have time to call him.They become too emotionally entrenched in the experience too quickly and fail to see how they create problematic dating dynamics. That is, until I recognized my part in the process and began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. Let go of the self-defeating thoughts holding you back. You will probably see a difference in how people interact with you. I can understand this, but going back to rule one, own it. Men want to be with a woman who has a life of her own, not someone who is just waiting around on them. Let him call you at least for the first couple of months.So, based on my own experiences, as well as what I’ve seen from my friends, I’ve come up with the following rules that every woman should follow: 1. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down? Your life circumstances are nothing to be ashamed of. This extends into a long-term relationship as well. If you don’t, I can guarantee you that at some point, you will be miserable. Again, this becomes diagnostic of how much energy he wants to invest. If this is anxiety provoking, find some other way to spend your time. The result of this effort is shown in the table below.(By clicking on the table or pie charts you can enlarge them.) Now, even though I have gone to rigorous ends to elicit these ratings from the recesses of my mind, obviously they are still relative to my personal taste.Cuckolding, when we boil it all down to its basic premise, is when the dominant half of a relationship – and because this site deals with primarily female led relationships I’ll use it in that context – decides to take on other lovers with or without the consent of the submissive partner. Cuckolding is as individual as those couples who are participating in it. Those of you who know me know that I hate everything being put in nice, neat little boxes and that I hate the word normal.