We pull back, tread carefully, up the efforts, shrink a little (or a lot), force a smile, keep trying to show how much we love and care only to feel as if that’s making it worse, and sometimes put up with some pretty unpleasant if not downright abusive carry-on.
ARTISTS Aden Air Miami Andrew Beaujon Ascension Autoclave The Ballet Barbara Manning Bastro Bells Of Blast Off Country Style Bloody Amateur Bloodthirsty Butchers Borthwick / holl And Bossanova Bratmobile Bridget / Kathi / Doug Butch Willis Cath Carroll Tha Cheeky Bastid Circus Lupus Clarence Cobalt Containe Coral Cotton Candy Courtney Love Crispy Ambulance Currituck Co. Egg Cheer DESCRIPTION A compilation of early Unrest tracks including their first album and tracks from their first two singles, and more. Newcastle, August 2, 1993 Washington, DC, February 24, 2005 England, 1992 COMPILATIONS Extremism... (London's Theme) The Hill The Hill, part two Hi-Tec Theme Holiday in Berlin, part 1 Holiday in Berlin, part 2 Hope Hydro Hydrofoil Hydrofoil One Hydrofoil No.3 Hydroplane I Do Believe You Are Blushing I Hate Ms. [Unrest Incidental Piece] Usually on Fridays, a Hamburger Velvet Spit Vibe Out! / Hydrofoil (medley) Volume Reference Tone Wednesday and Proud West Coast Love Affair Wharton Hockey Club When It All Comes Down Where Are All Those Puerto Rican Boys?
If someone’s stuff is going to prevent them from chipping in with love, care, trust, and respect and they’re going to enjoy the fruits of you being an almost skivvy in the relationship, it’s time for them to jog on, because your efforts will not be respected and appreciated for it.
If anything, they will feel some level of guilt and rather than step up, they’ll act out, keep distancing themselves from you while telling you what they think you want to hear or pulling other passive aggressive acts because the nicer you are the worse they feel; or they’ll make an exit where they can go back to their comfort zone or press the reset button, all while likely taking no responsibility.
You know where you stand when you show up as a person who can own their own and has a good sense of self, because you can quickly tell where you’re being left hanging by somebody who is of a very different inclination.
Instead of blaming you, you recognise that you both want different things and that no relationship of any decency is going to go anywhere good when it lacks consistency, commitment, balance, progression and intimacy that only materialises when two people show up to a relationship.