Saying "I love you" to my family is super normal for me; saying "I love you" to a gentleman caller is not. )As one who is admittedly unqualified to determine if a month is an appropriate amount of time to date before saying "I love you," I instead spoke to dating and relationship expert Meredith Golden to gather her opinion on the matter Here's what she said: This is a great point. "That's long enough to fall in love and to verbally express it." So basically, if you've done a relationship "Whole 30" for the month, just do it. My unsolicited opinion is that if you have 30 days in a row to spend with your new boo, maybe there are other parts of your life that are lacking?
(What can I say, that's just effed-up hand of cards my life experience has dealt me.) For others, saying "I love you" in a relationship is totally normal, while familial stuff is a bit more complicated. You can be "dating" someone for a month, but with your busy schedules, maybe you've only seen each other once a week. But love is love, and stranger things have happened, so the 30-day rule seems like a good one.
of feelings come up within the first month of dating someone new, and one of them could definitely be love.
However, how would you feel if your partner didn't reciprocate the love, or freaked out?
Maybe try writing "I love you" down on a paper or doodling "Mrs.If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.(Plus Romeo and Juliet.) This theory would lead me to posit that saying "I love you" early on is a big fat red flag, and that no matter how big your feelings are a month into a relationship, you should probably shut your trap.However, as a human woman whose feelings evolve at the pace of LA traffic, I don't totally trust my theory. Somehow, no matter how "meant to be" you might feel, I can't help but think that saying "I love you" after hanging out for less hours than there are in a day is a terrible idea."[One month is] not too soon if you spend every single day together for an entire month," says Golden. My initial thought is: I don't know of anyone who's spent every single day together the entire first month of their relationship, and maybe that's the point. How can you turn an awkward first date with the man of your dreams into the relationship you’ve dreamed of? But exactly how do you find out without asking him outright and getting a look like you’ve just asked him to marry you?Never empty your glass – You might be shaking like a leaf and nothing would settle your nerves more than to knock back the glass of wine on your table, but trust me, it’s not worth it.If you want to stay in control of the date and keep him interested then take it easy and don’t overindulge.(I'm having anxiety just imagining doing this, but I'm proud of you.)Yeah, yeah, yeah... On the other hand, if you're a scaredy cat like me, examine your fear around saying "I love you.""Ultimately, you know when it feels right," says Golden."If you see yourself having a future with someone, the relationship is healthy, communication is easy, chemistry is stellar, and you’re monogamous, all signs point to a happy, healthy, and committed relationship warranting the three words."At the end of the day — or, month — every relationship is different.