“I feel like people try to get to know the person before they even meet them,” Sean says.“With social media and word of mouth from friends, we jump to judgment before the date has even transpired.“But invest in the little things and then it won't seem as necessary,” he says.Like most people, James sees that putting thoughts of marriage on the back burner can get him closer to where he wants to be professionally, “but what am I doing to counter that? It can be so easy to put career before social life, but we shouldn’t be afraid to give some priority to meeting new people and socializing, James added.I know better than most that guys can cause plenty of dating problems with our lack of communication.It’s a constant struggle that I’ve written about on multiple occasions — our emotional languages can be tricky, we’re not always the best listeners, we send confusing text messages, and oftentimes we hesitate to make the first move.
I don’t like it—but I know I’m guilty of this mentality too.
We can “swipe left,” scroll through profile after profile, send a wink, message, and even see how many mutual friends we share.
We can see someone's likes, music taste, articles they’ve read, and so on.
"This got me thinking — are other single men struggling with modern dating dilemmas and what do they do about it?
To figure this out, I interviewed seven different guys about modern dating frustrations, and this is what they said.