May we suggest some soothing yoga, calming foods, and a few Ryan Gosling flicks to help the pass the time?MORE: 11 Tiny Life Changes That Will Bring You Major Bliss If you’re having bad luck with dates If every single date you’ve landed in the last few months has been a dud, you might be more motivated than ever to keep looking (seriously, it can only go up from here, ).And try these 6 ways to get over a breakup the healthy way.MORE: What Guys Really Do to Get Over a Breakup If you’re having a hard time emotionally When you’re going through a rough period—whether it be depression, a substance abuse problem, or a body image hang-up—you might want to focus on yourself rather than a new relationship.“When you get out there and date, you always want to put your best foot forward and be your best possible self,” says Sussman.“When you’re in a really good place and you’ve got a lot of confidence, that’s when you'll attract a quality partner.” So if you’re going through a rough patch, check out of the dating scene for a while and tune into yourself.
“But you need to be about 80 percent healed before you put yourself out there.” So if you’ve still got strong feelings for your ex—of the puppy love, crushing betrayal, or rage variety—then you probably need to put the brakes on your love life while you work things out solo.Apparently, Hough’s strict hiatus isn’t exactly a rule that she (or you) needed to follow through on anyway. Sussman shares her thoughts on when taking a break from dating is definitely a do: If you had a messy breakup or divorce Long-term relationships lead to lingering feelings, and there’s no use trying to meet someone new when you’re still stuck in the past.One of the best ways to heal post-breakup is to define your solo time by goals or emotional milestones, not time limits, says relationship expert and therapist Rachel A. “I definitely feel after a major break-up or divorce, you should take a hiatus from dating,” says Sussman.So while you’re ready to shut down Tinder and spend a few more Saturday nights at home, you still feel that nagging urge: “shouldn’t you be trying to get out there?” It can be worse when your Instagram seems to be nothing but happy couples canoodling all over the place and Facebook is full of people talking about how awesome their girlfriends or boyfriends are.The goal is to assess the damage before you reach serial dater status and lose way too many weeknights to failed Ok Cupid dates. Nerd Love, Recently, I had a potential relationship fall through.Wrong Place, Wrong Time I’m sorry things fell apart for you, WPWT, but you should take heart that you’re doing the right thing.One of the things that can be useful in the wake of a break up is to do a sort of self-assessment.That being said, there isn’t a set period of time to aim for here.She sees a lot of people who take six months or a year to themselves, but even they aren’t always 100 percent ready.