Letters are exchanged between the scammer and victim until the scammer feels they have convinced the victim enough to ask for money.These requests may be for gas money, bus and airplane tickets to visit the victim, medical expenses, education expenses etc.Victims can be highly traumatized and very embarrassed when they learn that their romance was a scam.In some cases, online dating services are themselves engaged in misrepresentation displaying profiles which have been fabricated using personal information from users who have not agreed to be depicted on the site social media accounts, classified sites and even online forums to search for new victims.There is usually the promise that the scammer will one day join the victim in the victim's home.The scam usually ends when the victim realizes they are being scammed or stops sending money.Some romance scammers seek out a victim with an obscure fetish and they will make the victim think that if they pay for the scammer's plane ticket, they will get to live out a sexual fantasy of theirs with the scammer.Other scammers also like to entice victims to perform sexual acts on webcam.
Scammers are very adept at knowing how to "play" their victims - sending love poems, sex games in emails, building up a "loving relationship" with many promises of "one day we will be married".
Another variation of the romance scam is when the scammer insists they need to marry in order to inherit millions of dollars of gold left by a father, uncle, or grandfather.
A young woman will contact a victim and tell them of their plight: not being able to remove the gold from their country due to being unable to pay the duty or marriage taxes.
A romance scam is a confidence trick involving feigning romantic intentions towards a victim, gaining their affection, and then using that goodwill to commit fraud.
Fraudulent acts may involve access to the victim's money, bank accounts, credit cards, passports, e-mail accounts, or national identification numbers; or forcing the victims to commit financial fraud on their behalf.