If she can’t hang out then, she can let you know a better day or you can tell her a different time that works for you.You never want to say, “I’m free whenever, just let me know.” or “I’m open Monday, Tuesday, Friday, and the weekend.” You’re not being concrete enough and you won’t get her to commit to a specific day with you.You’re afraid to flirt, create physical contact, or move things forward with the girl you like. You believe that if you just hang around for a while, you’ll build a romantic connection.And when that romance never happens, you resort to an outright declaration of love.You might end up with a woman, but she’ll only be attracted to your financials.
If you can’t get a woman to respond or accept seeing you with a simple, “Hey, I’ll swing by your place today and say hi.” then you shouldn’t show up.You’re dying for a response because you just have to find out for sure. That reason isn’t always negative and pestering her about replying shows you’re just waiting around staring at your phone.Sometimes guys will “joke” about a girl ignoring them or being a flake.Now I’ve written before about how neediness is a state of mind and not necessarily your actions. But I would be naive to think that some behaviors didn’t still look “desperate”, even if they’re coming from a healthy place. If I like someone, I’m going to talk to them and not overthink it.But I also understand that smothering a girl too soon can be a huge turnoff.15 minutes go by, then half an hour, and then an hour. And if she ignoring you, messaging her again isn’t going to get her more attracted to you — it’ll do the opposite. Just like “double texting”, never ask a girl if she got your last message.Now you’re panicking and wondering if she’s ignoring you. Assume she did and that she hasn’t responded for a reason.You alone are more than enough to build a romantic connection with a woman.Maybe you think showing her what you can offer will give you a better chance…but all you do is set yourself up as a guy who needs to compensate to get women.You tell her that you like her and care so much about her.You promise you’ll treat her better than any other guy.